Finding Happy With eHarmony (And a Chance to Win a $100 Visa Gift Card!) (CLOSED)
I think everyone has that friend. That friend who is amazing and fantastic and wonderful, and you just can't figure out why they haven't found The One. In fact, that friend is so amazing and fantastic and wonderful you can't even think of someone to hook them up with because he or she is too good for anybody you know.
Good news, kids. It all works out in the end. In the past year, I've watched not one but two of my most amazing single friends find The One. Just thinking about how happy they are now makes me break out in a smile as big as the sun.
One of those friends, Jennifer, immediately came to mind when I received an email from BlogHer asking if I knew anyone who had found love using eHarmony. Jennifer should work for eHarmony's marketing department because HOOBOY does she sing their praises! Jennifer is an incredibly gorgeous, sweet, outgoing, energetic, and hysterical 30-something who is now engaged to Brian.
I sent Jennifer some questions, and here's what she had to say:
How did you meet?
Well, we first "met" on eHarmony. After a few months of emailing and IMing back and forth, we finally decided to meet for real at Primanti Brothers. Our first date was spent watching the Pens play while we destroyed some sammiches. LOL.
Why did you decide to try eHarmony?
I did it after a dare from a friend! Really!
I had been using another online dating site to meet people for a while and just kept striking out. The guys who would contact me were not my type at all, and the guys I contacted were total duds. My friend Sara and I were talking about how bad the whole dating thing was going when she mentioned that eHarmony has detailed questionnaires that are used to recommend people who are a better match based on personality traits. We joked that any system that thought it could find a match for my personality was crazy. Sara dared me to try it and see what kind of "loser" eHarmony would think would match my personality, so I did.
Only Brian isn't a loser at all! He's the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. eHarmony was right when it suggested that we meet!
When did you first know Brian was The One?
Oh, that's a good question. I think I knew within the first few minutes of our first date. We just clicked so perfectly! I didn't realize I knew he was the one for another month or so, though. I was telling a friend about Brian, and she asked if we were an official thing. I just kept thinking, "I hope we are!"
That weekend we had "The Talk" and agreed we were an official thing. A year later he proposed!
So, what's next?
WE'RE GETTING MARRIED! Crazy, isn't it? I'm pretty sure my parents thought I was going to be a single cat lady forever. LOL.
The wedding is in March, so we're really busy trying to put together the final details. I know it sounds sappy, but I can't wait to begin spending forever with my best friend.
I kind of want to make fun of Jennifer for her "sappy," but it's way too fantastic seeing her so happy. I'll just sit here and smile instead.
And now a chance for you to smile. BlogHer and eHarmony have given me a $100 Visa gift card to give away. All you have to do to be entered for a chance to win it is to leave a comment telling me what personality trait is a MUST in a partner and why.
Rules:
No duplicate comments.
You may receive (2) total entries by selecting from the following entry methods:
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d) For those with no Twitter or blog, read the official rules to learn about an alternate form of entry.
This giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or older.
Winners will be selected via random draw, and will be notified by e-mail.
You have 72 hours to get back to me, otherwise a new winner will be selected. The Official Rules are available here.
This sweepstakes runs from 2/14/2012 - 3/15/2012.
Visit the BlogHer.com eHarmony page to check out more blogger success stories and for more chances to win!
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Reader Comments (216)
Honesty is the most important trait I look for in a partner,
https://twitter.com/#!/susan1215/status/169956484032102400
Honesty is the most important to me, I want to be able to trust whoever I am with.
sweokgrl@gmail.com
tweeted
https://twitter.com/#!/bdiane35/status/169982990884159488
the personality trait that i love best about my hubs is his sense of humor. there is nothing in the world that is more fun than just spending time with him, laughing our heads off over next to nothing. relatedly, he has the best laugh ever, which is uber awesome for curing me of a foul mood.
He must have a sence of humor, plus he has to get my sarcasm. Luckily my husband has both on his side! :)
The most important trait is integrity. If a man is not his word than the trust is lacking which is a foundation in a relationship
A sense of integrity. There's more - but that's first on the list.
a sense of humor! life is too short to not be laughing through it.
https://twitter.com/#!/DesMoinesDealin/status/170970663018958848
A great sense of humor. I love to laugh and my hubby always knows how to lift my spirits with humor. Another important trait is sharing the same faith. That is a very important quality.
Tweeted
https://twitter.com/#!/disneyfan40/status/171016892780257280
My partner must be a hard worker. Not a workaholic or anything, but someone who works for what he has rather than expect to be given it. I probably need this because I am very goal orientated and hate seeing people who don't take responsibility for their life.
I tweeted
https://twitter.com/#!/The_Sunshyn/status/171318575926214656
https://twitter.com/#!/thepryfamily/status/171373458679275520
thepryfamily@gmail.com
The ability to be completely politically incorrect and laugh about it... when no one else is around. Honestly, my sense of humor is sort of juvenile sometimes, so I need a match that way!
Honesty. Not necessarily easy to figure out right away, but a relationship (or at least mine) can't survive too long without it. Otherwise, you might always wonder if/when that person is lying.
Trust b/c without it, you can't have a solid marriage/relationship
family74014 at gmail dot com
Honesty is a must, too much dishonesty these day's!
Tweet
https://twitter.com/#!/mngirlinssp/status/171727463095869440
For me, the most important character trait my partner must have is loyalty. This doesn't just mean not straying, but also defending me, treating me well, and believing in me and our relationship.
jfong1130 at yahoo dot com
https://twitter.com/#!/jfong1130/status/171841957713289216
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Honesty - the personality trait is a MUST in a partner, because I think I cannot trust anyone who is not honest especially who is your partner.
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I tweeted about this giveaway: https://twitter.com/#!/ctong2/status/171884195998732288
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My husband must be loyal to family because that is the basis for a good relationship.
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tweeted
https://twitter.com/#!/kellydsaver/status/171960480271835137
I also tweeted about this! https://twitter.com/#!/akuipers/status/169456764796944384 (Also, I didn't think my comments were working, but now I see two of them above in case you don't notice to remove one. Thanks!)
trustworthiness. if you don't have honesty you've got nothing to build on
imnotarunner at gmail dot com
Integrity. Being a good person is definitely a must! If he holds open the door for you on the first date but drops it on the old woman behind him, he will be dropping the door on you once he gets comfortable.
I tweeted
https://twitter.com/#!/tracylr233/status/172990220151697408
I have a few musts, but one that is really important is the ability to laugh with me. We laugh a lot in this house and it just makes it feel like home.
Honesty is a value I rule among the highest. Along with sense of humor- because if you can't laugh at yourself sometimes you're not living life to its fullest!
A sense of humor as well as the ability to read situations and understand when that sense of humor should stay dormant. Too many men saying stupid things at the wrong time just trying to be funny...
I'm going to have to go with sense of humor. It's how I get through life so I need someone who will be able to laugh at all the ups and all the downs.
A sense of humor. And honesty.
I RT'ed but can't figure out how to open individual tweets in the new twitter layout. Lame.
I'm a sucker for sense of humor, but I'm going with "team spirit". It took me a long time to figure out that the right people to be with root for both people in the relationship and want everyone to be happy and fulfilled, not just one person.
My husband and I met on a blind date. We are total opposites. We also have 4 children and will be married for 22 years this coming August. So, I guess I just needed to find someone NOT LIKE ME ;) Thanks for the chance.
A sense of humor is a must...I certainly couldn't live with someone who did not have one! Sarcasm is good too, since I can be very sarcastic at times. He's just gotta get me! I know there is a saying somewhere about girls wanting to marry a man like her daddy. Um, heck no, not for me. I guess I married a man much like my favorite uncle...funny, sarcastic...and a computer geek to boot LOL. (and we met online BEFORE eharmony, match.com or any other online dating site came into being! :) )
sarcastic humor. It's a must.
Understanding! Because you won't agree on everything, so you need someone who will understand your opinion even if he doesn't agree.
This is such a tough question! I think my absolute top trait is honesty (this is what happens after someone cheats on you, you get a little paranoid for a while). Empathy and kindness are also up there. Also at the risk of sounding snobby, some degree of intelligence is also important to me- not a genius or anything, but being able to have some kind of conversation about current events or my thesis work is nice.
Laid back but not too much. I don't want someone who will nit pick details but I also don't want someone who will always let me win just to avoid a fight.
https://twitter.com/#!/davisesq212/status/173794482293182464
He must have a sense of humor because when the going gets rough, we will need to laugh about it.
honesty, kindness to others, and loyalty
I think that honesty is the most important character trait for a partner to have.
Honesty is the most important trait because you've got to be able to trust your partner!
here is the link to my tweet:
https://twitter.com/#!/bellows22/status/174686468768415744
Kindness because I couldn't spend the rest of my life with an unkind person.