Finding Happy With eHarmony (And a Chance to Win a $100 Visa Gift Card!) (CLOSED)
I think everyone has that friend. That friend who is amazing and fantastic and wonderful, and you just can't figure out why they haven't found The One. In fact, that friend is so amazing and fantastic and wonderful you can't even think of someone to hook them up with because he or she is too good for anybody you know.
Good news, kids. It all works out in the end. In the past year, I've watched not one but two of my most amazing single friends find The One. Just thinking about how happy they are now makes me break out in a smile as big as the sun.
One of those friends, Jennifer, immediately came to mind when I received an email from BlogHer asking if I knew anyone who had found love using eHarmony. Jennifer should work for eHarmony's marketing department because HOOBOY does she sing their praises! Jennifer is an incredibly gorgeous, sweet, outgoing, energetic, and hysterical 30-something who is now engaged to Brian.
I sent Jennifer some questions, and here's what she had to say:
How did you meet?
Well, we first "met" on eHarmony. After a few months of emailing and IMing back and forth, we finally decided to meet for real at Primanti Brothers. Our first date was spent watching the Pens play while we destroyed some sammiches. LOL.
Why did you decide to try eHarmony?
I did it after a dare from a friend! Really!
I had been using another online dating site to meet people for a while and just kept striking out. The guys who would contact me were not my type at all, and the guys I contacted were total duds. My friend Sara and I were talking about how bad the whole dating thing was going when she mentioned that eHarmony has detailed questionnaires that are used to recommend people who are a better match based on personality traits. We joked that any system that thought it could find a match for my personality was crazy. Sara dared me to try it and see what kind of "loser" eHarmony would think would match my personality, so I did.
Only Brian isn't a loser at all! He's the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. eHarmony was right when it suggested that we meet!
When did you first know Brian was The One?
Oh, that's a good question. I think I knew within the first few minutes of our first date. We just clicked so perfectly! I didn't realize I knew he was the one for another month or so, though. I was telling a friend about Brian, and she asked if we were an official thing. I just kept thinking, "I hope we are!"
That weekend we had "The Talk" and agreed we were an official thing. A year later he proposed!
So, what's next?
WE'RE GETTING MARRIED! Crazy, isn't it? I'm pretty sure my parents thought I was going to be a single cat lady forever. LOL.
The wedding is in March, so we're really busy trying to put together the final details. I know it sounds sappy, but I can't wait to begin spending forever with my best friend.
I kind of want to make fun of Jennifer for her "sappy," but it's way too fantastic seeing her so happy. I'll just sit here and smile instead.
And now a chance for you to smile. BlogHer and eHarmony have given me a $100 Visa gift card to give away. All you have to do to be entered for a chance to win it is to leave a comment telling me what personality trait is a MUST in a partner and why.
Rules:
No duplicate comments.
You may receive (2) total entries by selecting from the following entry methods:
a) Leave a comment in response to the sweepstakes prompt on this post
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d) For those with no Twitter or blog, read the official rules to learn about an alternate form of entry.
This giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or older.
Winners will be selected via random draw, and will be notified by e-mail.
You have 72 hours to get back to me, otherwise a new winner will be selected. The Official Rules are available here.
This sweepstakes runs from 2/14/2012 - 3/15/2012.
Visit the BlogHer.com eHarmony page to check out more blogger success stories and for more chances to win!
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Reader Comments (216)
Sense of humor! :) Sarcasm as a second language is an added bonus!
Sense of humor, without a doubt. Ed luckily has one, which is why I put up with his crabbery. Shut up - crabbery IS TOO a word.
A sense of humor and a passion for something (job, hobby, talent, etc.) are crucial for me. I'm so glad I've found them :)
Sense of humor. I knew Steve (who I met on the other big online dating site) was The One about a month in when I quoted a random (and old) comedy routine. I had said that line a million times and no one had ever gotten the reference - I just did it to amuse myself. And he immediately picked up the reference and quoted the next line. We were both amazed that the other knew the comedy routine and spent the rest of the afternoon quoting it and laughing like loons. "What a bargain!"
I'm sensing a trend here...Sense of humor for sure. As harsh as life can sometimes be, being able to laugh makes everything right with the world.
I think the most important character trait in a partner is tenacity. When the going gets tough (as is bound to happen in any relationship), you need someone who won’t give up just because things are hard. You need someone who will stick with you through thick and thin.
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My honest answer is that I have absolutely no idea.
Similar/compatible world views? Is that a trait?
https://twitter.com/#!/carolineanne/status/169459863246741504
i too am going to go with sense of humor. Some of my most fond memories with my husband involve laughing.
Honesty.
Honesty.
The most important character trait is honesty.
Hard working. Because marriage takes a lot of it!
I'm going to buck the trend and go with Loyalty. What good is much else if your OH isn't loyal? (I mean if you can't commit to an ice cream flavor...what makes them able to commit to a relationship?)
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He needs to be able to balance me out. When im sad cheer me up etc.
The most important for me is honesty
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A sense of humor...it helps, especially when you become parents and deal with other life stresses!
For me, it's empathy - though sense of humor is a close second (I mean, if he doesn't get my jokes, what good is he;). My hubs totally feels other people's ups and downs, and that just makes him supersweet. He can always make me feel better!
Kindness is THE most important thing for me. Followed closely by a great sense of humor.
He's gotta be smart, followed closely by funny. Thank goodness my husband is like this, and handsome too! (not bad after 16 years together)
honesty!
Make me laugh, Liberal (yes, with a capital L) and cute. Okay, so that's three, not one. But, it's survived 17 years of marriage!
A sense of adventure. Life is one big adventure, and I need someone who is ready to adventure along with me.
I honestly think my only "must" in a partner is being nice. I have a lot of other things that I actually require, being smart and funny topping that list, but being nice is definitely the very top.
a must for me? intelligence, similar sense of humor, love of animals, honest, kind, hardworking. i can give you more if ya want...
Kindness. Which is why I'm married to a man with a heart of gold, not just to me, but our kids and everyone around him.
Definitely a sense of humor. My husband makes me laugh every single day and I fall in love with him all over again.
Hmmm... he has to be a good hearted person. He has to not be mean spirited. and obviously a sense of humor!
I would say compassion bc its so important to a healthy and happy relationship
https://twitter.com/#!/aes529/status/169570056278257664
Honesty has to come before everything else!
A kind heart goes a long way. I'd like him to be many things, but kindhearted I think is where I would begin.
The ability to make me laugh, honesty and patience.
Kindness and sense of humor. I knew that if Bryan kissed me we'd get married. I never had that kind of feeling before that was so powerful and so certain. Our 10th wedding anniversary is in May :-)
Definitely a sense of humor and passion for something (job, hobby, talent, etc.). Glad I have found that now.
Patience and humor
This gives me hope! My friends are making me do this, lol. I'd have to go with honesty and compassion.
Brains... and funny would be a big plus
It seems to be a popular choice on here, but humor is a must. I need someone that can be silly and make me laugh, even during the more serious (and mundane) times in life.
Honesty - Most important to me... and Compassion. Thats two, but to me a realtionship has to be based on honesty and compassion.
The first thing I noticed that I just loved about my husband when we first met was his sense of humor, then it was his compassion and honesty, then his work ethic. So those are what made me fall madly in love with him from our very first date! We have been together now for 17 years.
Honesty and a similar sense of humor to mine!
a sense of humor because i need a good laugh every now and again
Can we pretend that "proper spelling and grammar usage" is a personality trait? That's what I used to screen guys when I was doing the online dating thing. And it worked because I found a husband out of it! :)
The most important character trait my partner must have is honesty. That is because I believe all relationships build on trust. I don’t think I can trust someone that’s not honest.
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